When children aged 2 to 3 play hand and foot with their peers or at home, they don't know how to share. They often fight for toys, quarrels and even fights, which make their parents feel headache. In fact, children aged 2 to 3 are in a "self-centered period". Their feelings are the most important. Children's emotions are explicit and direct. They express their opinions through actions. They have a strong desire for possession and have no concept to share. And grabbing and quarrelling are the concrete manifestations of "ownership".
For children at this stage, sharing and rotation are abstract concepts. Ownership is the most important. So as long as they like to be exclusive to themselves, "sharing" means "losing" to them. So practice and learning in the game becomes very important. We can guide from two aspects:
Establishment of Exercise and Physical Education
At home, the sharing of goods between hands and feet is a good opportunity for practice; at the same time, the rotation, friendliness and sharing between adults is the best learning model for children. Because children's natural instinct is to "imitate and learn", so parents are always good teachers and mentors in children's learning. They will learn life, recognize emotions and establish norms from their parents.
Opportunity education is everywhere
In addition, "Opportunity Education" is also very important, bringing children and peers to interact, queuing together in turn to play with toys, or holding toy sharing parties with other parents, such as inviting children of relatives and friends to share with their favorite toys. By sharing toys with each other and taking turns to play with other children's toys, we know from the game that "taking turns can play more toys".
"Adult Guidance" and "Learning from Story Books"
Children in the game, parents can accompany and observe. When there is a dispute or a robbery for the first time, we must stop the wrong behavior and tell the child how to take turns to play. Of course, in the process of children's learning, if they still can not understand the meaning of "take turns to play", it is suggested that they do not have to use compulsory means to ask them to "take turns to play". Mom and Dad can use their own process of getting along with others as a demonstration to take children to understand the specific meaning of "take turns".
It can even use picture books to guide children to learn to take turns and share; let children observe peers, how older children take turns to play, and explain the benefits of "take turns to play", so that children can understand that "take turns to play" is the rule of the game, but also a kind of sharing.
Give your child the opportunity to correct and practice.
Encourage children to express their feelings in words when they participate in alternate activities. When children do not share and take turns, do not punish children who do not have "take turns to play", but discuss with them and find ways together. When children take turns, they can guide them to express their happiness, such as "play with children", "and there are many toys to play with", "play with everyone". 。 Let children know that "take turns" is more fun than quarrelling, so that children can understand the meaning of sharing and taking turns, know that "take turns" to make themselves happier, can also make other children happy.
Experience, study and practice are the only ways for children to grow up. Old experiences, like air and sunshine, are ubiquitous and powerful in children's lives. Dewey's "Learning by Doing" emphasizes the importance of practicing learning in life. Therefore, please create more opportunities for children to practice "take turns to play". I believe that under the guidance of adults'attentive companionship and love, children will soon learn to "take turns to play" and become a lovely playmate.
