How to Cultivate Children's Social Communication Ability?
Nurturing young children from an early age has good interpersonal skills and level, and has positive and important significance in promoting their mental health development and preventing various mental diseases.
1.Create a harmonious and healthy family atmosphere A democratic, equal, friendly and harmonious atmosphere of communication should be created in the family. Parents - centered and child-centered families are not desirable. If children want to have a harmonious and healthy interpersonal relationship, parents must create a harmonious and healthy family environment for their children. As the first teacher of the child, parents have a subtle influence on the child in many ways. The child has a strong imitation ability and often brings some language, behavior and habits of the parents into his own life. Family members should try their best to avoid disputes in front of their children, because such disputes will not only make them nervous and panic, but also make them unconsciously learn some negative ways of communication, such as attacking each other with bad words and attacking each other with hands.
2. Parents set a good example for their children As we all know, parents have a higher authority in their children's hearts. Plus, children have been living with their parents since childhood. Parents have the longest and deepest influence on their children. Therefore, parents' behavior is often the best example for children to learn and interact with. Therefore, parents should set an example and teach by example. Experts point out that children learn to communicate in imitation of adults. From birth, the child has always felt the parents' attitude towards himself and others, and imitated the parents' attitude and way of treating others. Therefore, parents should set an example in front of their children and ask them to do what they want, otherwise they will not be able to convince them.
3. Create an environment and opportunity for children to communicate and stimulate their interest and desire in communication. Today's single children grew up in the " 421st" environment ( i.e. four old people, two adults and one child ) at an early age. In fact, they are eager to play with their peers. Therefore, our parents should often create an environment and opportunities for children to communicate with their children. At the same time, parents should encourage their children to spend a certain amount of time and energy talking, playing and traveling with their peers, and must not neglect their children's study in this area on the pretext of the importance of cultural learning. For example, take more children to visit the family, support the children to bring their companions to play at home, do not impose too much restrictions on children's games, and do not shut out their friends on the grounds of cleanliness and hygiene of the family. Parents should not always leave their children at home or push them to the elderly to watch when visiting relatives and friends on holidays, and try their best to take children with them on occasions where they can bring them. First, it can cultivate the child's polite language and enrich the child's language, such as seeing others say good-bye when they leave. Second, it can enrich the experience of children's communication. For example, when they visit other people's homes, they guide their children to knock at the door first and get permission to enter again. When they play with their friends, they should politely request and get permission to play again. As a result, the children will no longer be afraid of meeting strangers if they know what to say, how to say and how to do it.
4, actively teach children the skills of communication Children's social interaction includes children's interaction with peers and children's interaction with adults. It is easier for children to communicate with adults, because adults can generally guess their intentions. Adults mainly teach their children the skills to communicate with their peers. The so-called communication skills refer to the strategies and skills to solve the problems encountered in communication in an appropriate way. For example, talk to your partner amicably and greet others with a name they like. Understanding your partner's interests and hobbies can not only obey other people's interests, but also not blindly follow them. Pay more attention to the strengths than weaknesses of others; I like to share toys and playgrounds together. I can leave a place for children who leave temporarily in the game. I am willing to let new companions come in at any time. I am willing to help those who have difficulties or lack experience. In the game, you can not only actively put forward suggestions, but also respect other people's opinions, not force others to accept or obey, you can communicate with others on an equal footing, and you can cooperate happily with your peers, etc. The reason why children show inappropriate communication behavior in communication is often due to lack of corresponding skills. In communication, children who are polite, cooperative, sharing and observing rules are often welcomed by their peers.
5. Understand the natural law of children's development and do not require children to meet the standards of adults. Parents are always eager to let their children master the skills of adult communication as soon as possible. In fact, the development of children needs a process. On the one hand, they need to have corresponding psychological maturity, and on the other hand, they need to constantly learn and accumulate experience. Therefore, parents should maintain a normal attitude and treat their children's performance in social communication with tolerance, and do not use adult standards to require their children.
